Saturday, June 20, 2009

He's just not into you

But sometimes, we're so focused on finding our happy ending,

we don't learn how to read the signs:
how to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't,
the ones who will stay from the ones who will leave...

I've just finished watching the DVD of the movie "he's just not that into you." Oh, I like this movie a lot! Somehow Gigi in this movie reminds me of the old days when I embarked on the noble quest of searching for my destined soul mate (gah!).

Like Gigi, I fell for a guy so easily. Like Gigi too, I did try to hang out in the place where the guy I had a crush on usually liked to be around. I went through that same period (or periods, I should say, hahaha) of longing for that guy to call me or text me, or just get the chance to meet him and have a nice simple conversation.

But boy, wasn't the rule true! When a guy likes you, he will come to you no matter what he has to go through to get to you.

When I waited and waited for that phone call or text message that never came in, actually it occurred to me that this was a clear sign that the affection was one-sided. Yet, how I loved to make a drama out of it, create an imagination too far that one day he would finally fell for me. And the cycle repeated again and again: fell in for a guy - looked forward to seeing him, talking to him, getting a call or text message from him - received no such expected response - still longed for the same thing - yet no response - tried to swallow the hard truth - saw another guy - fell in for him - and I was back at square one.

But you know what? I'm not sorry for having done all those stupid things I did, because it's true: the happy ending is you never gave up hope. So if you haven't found that better half of yours, gals, don't ever give up your hope!

Or maybe the happy ending is this:
Knowing that through all the unreturned phone calls and broken hearts,
through all the blunders and misread signals,
through all of the pain and embarrassment,
you never gave up hope.

Oh, I did prove that the rule is true.
Once a man liked me. He went after me and still did ever after all the maltreatment I gave him.
And now he's my husband ^_^

Source: he's just not that into you - the DVD
(I love the part when the guy finally realized that he was in love with Gigi. The kind of turn I wished to have! Plus he's a cutie, hahaha!)


Berly said... that is how to deal with play-hard-to-get girl?

metty said...

Well, that is your own call, Ber, whether you want to go all the way to get that girl or not. All I can tell is if you do it, you are really into her. :)

Yesse said...

maltreatment? hehehe..makes me wondering what kind of maltreatment a Metty could give..hehehe..

yeah, i agree with you too. Been in that episodes as you were, falling only to find out that it was one-sided, got bruised, healed, and then falling again...
what kept me going was HOPE that someday i might find him. And i did..

metty said...

And the fact that we've been through some journey to find our better-half only makes the "prize" more rewarding, don't you think?

Ah, what I mean by "maltreatment" is just a way to see how patient & tough he could be knowing that I'm not as great as he might think. I think you know what I mean :)